A bunch of useless crap
Published on May 11, 2005 By MasonM In Blogging
The past few days I had been feeling pretty low about my current situation. Mind you, NOT feeling sorry for myself, more just a mixture of anger, frustration, and a bit of depression.

At the same time, while I was feeling so low myself. I had been chatting with a couple of people who were going through some tough times and feeling depressed. I had been thinking about this as it relates to my own emotional state. During our chats I had not let on to these people that I was going through a "rough patch" myself but instead listened to them, proferred advise and cheerful thoughts, and generally did what I could to cheer them up. And they did seem in a somewhat better mood for it.

It's interesting that one can offer these things to others and try to help them through a tough time, but can't seem to take your own advice and cheerful thoughts. Mentally, I know and understand about the mechanisms of depression. I've been through the therapy and treatment for depression, been through the medication therapy, the whole nine yards.

But, when it comes down to it, it seems easier to offer help to others in need than to help yourself. Odd, isn't it? Having been through severe clinical depression, I understand and empathize with someone who is depressed. I can relate to them. But I sometimes can't seem to relate to myself and my own low feelings. I find this very strange.

I also know though that helping these folks through their tough time does help me too. It allows me to focus on them and trying to help them by listening and letting them vent their problems. That helps more than anything, just being able to express the feelings and problems. and having someone who cares listen.

It is strange that it's easier to help someone else than to help yourself.

Comments
on May 11, 2005
It's interesting that one can offer these things to others and try to help them through a tough time, but can't seem to take your own advice and cheerful thoughts.


Quite interesting in fact. I've been (and currently still am) in this exact situation before. I can do wonders helping others, but I sometimes can't seem to take my own advice and wallow in sour feelings. Though it does seem to help yourself when helping others. I suppose we're in the same boat...except your situation is a bit more severe than my petty stuff...but still we like to help others.

~Zoo
on May 11, 2005
Though it does seem to help yourself when helping others. I suppose we're in the same boat...except your situation is a bit more severe than my petty stuff...but still we like to help others.


Well, I don't think of the problems in terms of "mine is worse than yours" or visa versa. Whatever our particular problems may be, they are serious to us.

I think being actively involved in helping someone else takes our mind off our own problem and forces us to think in the postive terms needed to help them and pass along some postive energy for lack of a better phrase. Putting it another way, perhaps it makes us tap into that positive stuff we have instead of the negative and so it does help us too.
on May 11, 2005
It's really noble to try and help others. But watch it. YOu're like a sponge and there's only so much you can take from listening to other people's problems. It's true that it can help you take your mind off things, but at the end of the day you still got shit that needs to be dealt with.
Sometimes it's good to swap places and cry on someone else's shoulder. Even if their words dont help or if there's nothing really that can be done to help, only talking about it and getting it out of your system can make wonders.