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Published on July 31, 2009 By MasonM In Blogging

Feeling the need for a bit of image change I've reverted back to an old style of mine, wearing a tie. It's really funny how such a stupid thing as a piece of cloth tied around your neck can change how people react amd interact with you.

Just wearing a tie really does change how people act around you. Since I've started wearing a a tie again my customers want to shake hands with me, people call me "sir", and folks in general talk to me differently. Pretty absurd really, but it's true.

I was greatly amused by people's reactions when I showed up at the yard wearing a tie. One dispatcher did a double take when he looked at me but at first didn't say anything, but a little while later he asked me about it. I just said "the customers like it".

My fellow drivers, being more bold, demonstrated their curiosity with humorous comments/questions, but all agreed when I explained how it made a difference in how people react to you.

It's been several days now, and it's not the first time I've run this particular experiment, but it always amazes me how people react to a piece of cloth tied around one's neck. Pretty silly really, but I am no different. I think it does look more professional and neat.

As I am here until Sunday when I have to pick up my load, I checked into the hotel and went over to Applebees for dinner. As I got there later than usual I didn't expect to see "C" there, but she was working a double shift and was there. Just seeing her gave my heart a bit of a lift.

My joy at seeing her has nothing to do with any physical beauty but rather her personality. I suppose many people would say she is less than beautiful, I even got mad at someone who called her "horse faced" one night. But she has the most beautiful personality of anyone I have ever met (and I've written about her before).

She is always upbeat, happy, and totally positive. I find that very lovely in a person. And she always makes a point of giving me a hug whenever I stop in, and I do enjoy that hug greatly because I know she means it.

She is a positive person to the Nth degree, and I always get a bit of a boost just being around her. It's hard to not be influenced by such a positive person.

They were really busy when I stopped in and she only had a moment or two to chat with me as she served tables, but she did comment on my new look and even called me "handsome" a couple of times. That just made me laugh.

Things had slowed down by the time I was ready to leave and she had time to chat with me a bit and give me a hug. I told her that while I have traveled all over the country and visited many places around the world she was my favorite person in the world because she had such a positive personality. She seemed truly flattered and appreciative of that, telling me that was the nicest thng anyone had ever told her. I meant it and I believe she really did appreciate it as she doesn't seem to have a false bone in her body.

I don't even know why I felt the need to tell her that, but somehow I just felt the need to tell her. Perhaps, based on her reaction, she needed to hear that. Even the most positive people need a boost themselves once in a while.

Seeing her tonight gave me a bit of a positive energy boost that I needed. She is truly one of those people who can't help but have a positive influence on the people who meet her. If you've ever seen the tv show Friends, she would be Phoebe. Not exactly as she isn't as loopy, but it's the closest common reference I can come up with. Picture Phoebe riding a Harley and it might be close.

Back to the original point of this, the tie. At one point a nice looking blonde sat down at the bar next to me and placed a to go order. She struck up some conversation with me and at one point it got around to what I do for a living. When I told her I was a trucker I could see the confusion on her face as she looked at this guy sitting at the bar wearing a tie. I almost burst out laughing but controlled myself.

We had a nice conversation, and it turned out her father had driven truck for a while. Nice lady but I think she was still a bit confused when she left LOL. What can possibly be more fun that bursting people's llittle stereotype bubbles?

It's just a fracking piece of cloth.

 


Comments
on Jul 31, 2009

Nice story Mason.  And you obviously got a pick up in mood too.      There are a few special people who can do that for you.  Glad you got your boost tonight.  Your experiment is very interesting.  Are people more confused with the tie or with the knitting?  

Have a good trip wherever you are headed.   judy

on Jul 31, 2009

Are people more confused with the tie or with the knitting?

That's an excellent question. Probably 50/50. Put the two together and folks just have a mental melt down.

It really is quite funny how people react when their little stereotypes get blown out of the water.

on Aug 01, 2009

Mason, you crack me up! Is "C" religious? I'd be interested to know if she was.  She seems like she might be.

"its a piece of cloth" ~ It makes me wonder who thought of tieing that stupid piece of cloth around your neck like that.

on Aug 01, 2009

It's just a fracking piece of cloth.

And it comes in handy to wipe your dipstick when you check your oil!

Back in the day when everyone knew who Alex Karras was, they were shocked/surprised/amused to learn that his hobby was needlepoint.  He use to needle point his teammates names onto their jockstraps for them.  No one gave him a hard time about it, either.

on Aug 01, 2009

Good to see you happy Mason

As for the silly piece of cloth, I'm still in two minds about them I think - anyone trying to sell me something wearing one of those will have a hard time convincing me, it's like a flashing neon sign saying 'crook' just above his head Others just behave differently in a suit and tie - still I think respect is something you earn more than just receive because of a nice tie or suit. First impressions help, but if you're stuck with someone for longer than that, it's better if he/she knows his stuff

Looking back at my ramblings I'd guess in your line of work a tie might indeed make the difference

danny

 

on Aug 12, 2009

the_Peoples_Party
Mason, you crack me up! Is "C" religious? I'd be interested to know if she was.  She seems like she might be.

No, she isn't. Just a very upbeat sort of person.

"its a piece of cloth" ~ It makes me wonder who thought of tieing that stupid piece of cloth around your neck like that.

I suspect it was originally intended to cover less than attractive buttons on a shirt, but that's only a guess on my part.

on Aug 12, 2009

Big Fat Daddy

It's just a fracking piece of cloth.
And it comes in handy to wipe your dipstick when you check your oil!



Back in the day when everyone knew who Alex Karras was, they were shocked/surprised/amused to learn that his hobby was needlepoint.  He use to needle point his teammates names onto their jockstraps for them.  No one gave him a hard time about it, either.

He and Rosey Grier.

on Aug 12, 2009

it's like a flashing neon sign saying 'crook' just above his head

Some folks feel that way I suppose. I spent years working in an environment where a suit and tie were the norm so I suppose I am just used to them.

 

Looking back at my ramblings I'd guess in your line of work a tie might indeed make the difference

Yep, it tends to throw people off just a bit, which can work in my favor. Besides, first impressions are important in my line of work as I am often not likely to see those people again for a good while, if ever.

on Aug 12, 2009

there was a time when i'd show up at meetngs at clients' offices in century city, bh, encino, etc. wearing flops when i was dressing up or barefoot when i wasn't.  the guy i worked with wasn't at all happy bout that but he hadda admit nobody ever said a thing about it, possibly (he speculated) because they weren't sure if i was a producer at first--and by the time they realized i wasn't, the moment was over.

at the very end of december 2008, i came across a beautiful silk jacket atta salvation army store. it fit like it was made for me and at $2.50 how could i pass it up?  i wore it or another very similar silk jacket everytime i went out until about a month ago when it got really hot here.

like you i was constantly amazed by the way people reacted--not to me, clearly, but the jacket.

on Aug 13, 2009

like you i was constantly amazed by the way people reacted--not to me, clearly, but the jacket.

Yep, it's kinda funny really, but true.

on Aug 14, 2009

(just wanted to say it was good to see you back online Hope the trucking is still bringing in some business)

 

on Aug 14, 2009

Awake98
(just wanted to say it was good to see you back online Hope the trucking is still bringing in some business)

 

Thanks. It is what it is.