The Strange Things We Mourn

Published on June 6, 2004 By MasonM In Blogging

It struck me this morning that we can sometimes mourn some of the strangest things. It is normal to mourn the loss of a loved one. They are gone, and we will not be seeing them again in this lifetime.

But what about mourning other things? Since I am going to be job-hunting I decided that it might be a good idea to shave off my beard so as to have a more presentable appearance. After doing so, I felt a great sense of loss as if I had just lost an old friend. I did keep the moustache because I look like a dork without it. Well, ok, I look less like a dork with it.

I started thinking about the other things we seem to develop an attachment towards. During my fall off the mountain last week, I lost my favorite pair of Earth Shoes sandles. They were strapped to my backpack and somehow were torn loose. I have no idea where they went. I've had those sandles for years and sorely miss them. They were like an old friend.

It seems strange to feel such an attachment to a mere object. Or facial hair lol. Now I have to get accustomed to seeing my nearly naked face once again. I will admit I do look several years younger so I suppose that's a plus.

Comments

Floozie

on Jun 06, 2004

I'm sure you look sexy as hell!

I know what you mean though. I used to have dreadlocks down to my arse and I cried and cried after I cut them off. I think these things become a really big part of your personality - especially if it is something as visible as hair (facial or otherwise) which people notice as soon as they meet you.

All I can say is sit back and enjoy the breeze on your naked cheeks (not those ones you rude man!

)

Suz xx

Gene Nash

on Jun 06, 2004

Sadness, mourning, et al are forms of grief. Anytime we think we are experiencing loss or believe we are about to experience loss we are subject to grieve. What we are losing/have lost doesn't matter. "Things" are irrelevant. "Loss" itself is the defining element.

MasonM

on Jun 06, 2004

smartaz, you most definately have a firm grasp of the obvious.

Floozie, the breeze on the cheeks comment had me wondering for a moment if you were peeking in my windows

j/k it does feel a bit strange. As far as looking sexy.............Only if you use a seeing eye dog.

Gene Nash

on Jun 06, 2004

smartaz, you most definately have a firm grasp of the obvious.

Hmmm, thanks? I'll try to take that positively.

ScarlettAddams

on Jun 07, 2004

I know what you mean,why do we feel such loyalty and sadness when we lose something like that. I mean how is it possible to create an emotional bond with these things when they're so easily replaced and it'd be difficult to tell one from another off the production line.
Thanks for your comment on my blog! It made me laugh! My foot is quite sore, I got one of those big blue shoe things to wear-very fashionable! i feel perhaps and emotional bond to it, I believe I will feel loss when the time has come to take it off! Thanks again!

-Scarlett

Shulamite

on Jun 13, 2004

I lost a really great can opener about a year ago. This new one sucks. I still mention it from time to time to my mom; how awful this thing is and how I miss the old one. The old one was almost 20 years old...

I'm trying to separate myself from things though. My current mission is to declutter and get rid of as much stuff as I can part with. It's tough.

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