JoAnn and I split up in early '04 and I moved from VA back to FL. After 7 years it was over between us. And yet I still got calls from her at least once a month. I was never sure exactly why.
After my wreck the day after Christmas in '04 she called me at the hospital in Milwaukee to see how I was doing. That was nice. When I was released from the hospital to fly home at the end of January '05 she paid for my plane ticket. We'd been split up for a little shy of a year by then.
She called me every couple of weeks during my recovery period. After I was able to go back to work she called me about once a month but eventually that started spanning out to every 6 weeks, then every couple of months, and finally I hadn't heard from her for a few months.
While I was sitting here in the hotel room my phone rang and it was her. She didn't want anything specific, just to talk. It was nice to hear from her, but in some ways to me it's kind of like pouring salt into a wound. It must be to her too. So why does she call?
I haven't called her a single time since we split up. Not once. Because I don't care? No. Because I feel that if it's over, it's over, why prolong the misery?
We split on as good a terms as a couple can split. We mutually agreed that it was best as she wanted to get married and I didn't. That was our whole disagreement. It wasn't a fight, nor was it a blow-out. It was a conversation we had in which we both expressed our feelings in a very sane and rational way and decided that there simply wasn't a middle ground there.
I just don't understand why she still calls after all this time.