A bunch of useless crap
Published on August 6, 2006 By MasonM In Blogging
Where to begin? Well, as a small boy I was kind of curious and so I tried to see how the gas kitchen stove worked. I played with all of the knobs and at one point everything just exploded. I suffered serious burns, including my eyes, and the fire department put out the fire.

It took a while for me to recover from that one.

Ummm, let's see. I am currently in a tremendous amount of pain due to numerous physical injuries and illnesses I've suffered between then and now. Back injuries, serious head injuries, hit by lightening, car crashes, gunshot wounds (2), knife wounds (3), dysentery, sprains, breaks, hernia, and a multitude of various accidents requiring sutures and repairs. I'm used to it.

I live alone, have no "significant other" and few people I would call a friend.

Most days I am doing well to even walk, lack of pain is not an option.

But, you know what? I'm alive, have my self respect and my will to persevere. I get up and go about my business doing what I need to do regardless. I don't complain and I don't grumble. I make jokes instead because they're more fun.

My body may be broken but that which is me is still intact. My life is broken but that which is me is still intact. So far none of the myriad things that have tried have succeeded in killing me. Every time something tries to finish me off and fails I get stronger and more determined. That's who I am.

I know I am strong. I know I am good (most of the time).

Yeah, my life sucks, but I am still here and I still fight. I don't whine about it or seek pity from others. I reject pity for I am not to be pitied because I am stronger than those who would presume to dole out pity for me and I refuse to accept it.

Express pity for me and I'll bust you in the teeth. My life sucks but I still have some things that can not be stripped away from me. They are pride and dignity.



Comments
on Aug 06, 2006
Pity? Hell no. A swift kick in the butt is more like it.

Failure to call me a friend (or implying you have few) is a hangin' offense, or just this side of it.

Pick your sorry butt back up and use the strength you mention to get going rightly again. Ain't nothin' stopping you if you really want it, and as long as you remember that you'll be fine and you'll realize life ain't as bad as your headline title implies.

There are times when I've had my doubts and wished that life would treat me a bit better also, but we don't always get what we ask for or we may find that there are some detours and roadblocks along the way. I guess it's all part of a plan, or fates way of pushing us where it wants us to go. Either way, dwelling on the bad ain't helpin' nothing so why bother. Find something you can do that will improve things, even if only a little, do it, and then repeat that process again and again.

Don't dare leave me or your other friends here thinkin' you can't get it done. We'll come through this here interweb thing and kick your butt.
on Aug 06, 2006
dwelling on the bad ain't helpin' nothing so why bother

Very much my point.
on Aug 06, 2006
Fantastic. I love it when I can catch these articles at just the right moment in my life to be able to say "hell yeah!" I hope I am as strong as you. Love to read your writing Mason. Always good to hear from you.
on Aug 06, 2006
Is this inspired by that pity article written by that woman who was whining about school and her boyfriend? I had to laugh at that one.

I like your article way better. Sometimes we all need to whinge, but I love articles where people keep on trying. Yay you!

BTW, the fact you burned your eyes really freaks me out. Eye injuries freak me the most. Were you able to regain your all your vision?
on Aug 06, 2006
#3 by Cordelia
Sun, August 06, 2006 02:59 AM


Thanks.
on Aug 06, 2006
#4 by momijiki
Sun, August 06, 2006 06:51 AM




Is this inspired by that pity article written by that woman who was whining about school and her boyfriend? I had to laugh at that one.

Yeah

I like your article way better.

Thanks.

BTW, the fact you burned your eyes really freaks me out. Eye injuries freak me the most. Were you able to regain your all your vision?

Yeah, but it affected the lenses and I had to wear glasses from a pretty young age. They eventually got better and I stopped wearing them for a few years but now am forced to wear them again to read. (old age )
on Aug 06, 2006
Its moments when we get into pity ruts (which I've had now and then...) that we have to remind ourselves what is GOOD in our lives and what we have to be thankful for.

I know you may not agree with this, but it is somewhat inspiring to read about someone who continues to look forward instead of just hanging on to every single bad thing that has happened in his life. Nice read.
on Aug 06, 2006
#7 by InBloom
Sun, August 06, 2006 1:06 PM



[InBloom]
Its moments when we get into pity ruts (which I've had now and then...) that we have to remind ourselves what is GOOD in our lives and what we have to be thankful for.


Sure, we all get down now and again, it's perfectly natural. For me at least, it's how we deal with it that matters. I've been known to get depressed, have even blogged about it, but once I get it out I deal with it and get on with tings.


I know you may not agree with this, but it is somewhat inspiring to read about someone who continues to look forward instead of just hanging on to every single bad thing that has happened in his life. Nice read.


Thanks. It doesn't pay to dwell on the crap.
on Aug 06, 2006
I think what bugs me most is when people do the "I'm pitiful/needy because of the bad things that happened to me" crap. No you're not, you're pitiful/needy because you choose to be so.

My favorite Eagles song is 'Get Over It'

I turn on the tube and what do I see
A whole lotta people cryin’ ’don’t blame me’
They point their crooked little fingers ar everybody else
Spend all their time feelin’ sorry for themselves
Victim of this, victim of that
Your momma’s too thin; your daddy’s too fat

Get over it
Get over it
All this whinin’ and cryin’ and pitchin’ a fit
Get over it, get over it

You say you haven’t been the same since you had your little crash
But you might feel better if I gave you some cash
The more I think about it, old billy was right
Let’s kill all the lawyers, kill ’em tonight
You don’t want to work, you want to live like a king
But the big, bad world doesn’t owe you a thing

Get over it
Get over it
If you don’t want to play, then you might as well split
Get over it, get over it

It’s like going to confession every time I hear you speak
You’re makin’ the most of your losin’ streak
Some call it sick, but I call it weak

You drag it around like a ball and chain
You wallow in the guilt; you wallow in the pain
You wave it like a flag, you wear it like a crown
Got your mind in the gutter, bringin’ everybody down
Complain about the present and blame it on the past
I’d like to find your inner child and kick it’s little ass

Get over it
Get over it
All this bitchin’ and moanin’ and pitchin’ a fit
Get over it, get over it

Get over it
Get over it
It’s gotta stop sometime, so why don’t you quit
Get over it, get over it
on Aug 07, 2006
All this made me think was...damn I moan about some shit!  The pieces of writing that I love the most are those that make me think, and make me look at myself.  So Thank You Mason.  You're a good guy x
on Aug 07, 2006
#10 by Sally jacobs
Mon, August 07, 2006 11:56 AM




All this made me think was...damn I moan about some shit! The pieces of writing that I love the most are those that make me think, and make me look at myself. So Thank You Mason. You're a good guy x


Thanks. We all piss and moan about something or other from time to time. It's good to express yourself and get things off your chest. It's just the "poor pitiful me" stuff that gets under my skin a little.

Thanks.
on Aug 08, 2006
There is nothing wrong with having a whinge but continually induging in the habit is ridiculous. Everyone wants to hear about how people overcome their hardships not how much one is continually suffering because of them.

I'm alive, have my self respect and my will to persevere. I get up and go about my business doing what I need to do regardless. I don't complain and I don't grumble. I make jokes instead because they're more fun.


If you don't mind me saying so, this is a fucking awesome attitude. What is the use of complaining? It won't make anything better whereas a good laugh will. I'd far rather laugh at my misfortune than lament it.
on Aug 08, 2006
#12 by dynamaso
Tue, August 08, 2006 02:12 AM




Thanks, my attitude is nothing special. I just do what I have to.