A bunch of useless crap
Published on March 3, 2006 By MasonM In Blogging
I pulled into a small truckstop in Florida a couple of nights ago. The air was warm and humid, not hot. I parked my rig and stepped out, stretching after several hours in the driver's seat, while I walked towards the building. I was stopped by two men, one about my age I guessed, and one several years older.

The younger of the two addressed me, saying he and his father, pointing to the older man, were from New Orleans and were trying to get back home. After an elaborate and lengthy story he told me he just wanted to get his father something to eat. I have to say after eyeing the older man he didn't look very healthy.

I told the man I had no money to give them (which was true as I hadn't cashed my comcheck yet) and walked inside. After cashing my check I walked over to the KFC and ate a meal. WHile I was eating I kept thinking about the two men and decided that while they could just be local scammers, maybe, just maybe, they could really be broke and hungry. After I ate my meal I ordered a couple of sandwiches to go.

Walking back across the lot I handed the sack to the older man and said "here ya go, have a sandwich" and indicated that I had one for each of them. The younger man's expression was one of true gratitude (or he was an Academy Award actor) and he shook my hand.

It was a small thing, but it made me feel good. I've been down and out, especially last year when I was basically an invalid who depended on others for everything, and it was nice to be able to do something for someone else.

Giving is definately better than receiving.

Comments
on Mar 03, 2006
I'll bet it felt really great to do that.

It's hard to give, because you never know. I understand how hard my husband works for the money we have, and I'm not willing to give it to someone, unearned, so that they can waste it. If I feel like it's needed...truly needed...then I am willing to give.

A problem for us is that we never carry cash. If we have to have cash for something (haircuts or whatever), we get it out just prior. A while back an middle-aged lady stopped us on the way in to Blockbuster and asked for 2 dollars to buy bread. We didn't have any cash on us at all, so we declined.

She looked *very* well fed, but I suppose she could have been hungry regardless. I feel guilty about it because even with my misgivings, I could have gone to the grocery story and used my debit card to buy her some bread, peanut butter, and a few non-perishable staples.

Of course, we get asked for money ALL THE TIME here (and there's a HUGE meth epidemic), so it gets easy to say no. I particularly don't feel inclined to give to healthy, clean young men wearing expensive boots and carrying pricey backpacks. I just want to yell, "You look strong and healthy. Go get a job like everyone else!"

That's not very nice of me, is it?
on Mar 03, 2006
Sounds like it was a wise choice and a good thing to do Mason.
on Mar 03, 2006
Tex, I know the feeling and understand. As a trucker I get accosted for money all the time. Usually, I say no and move on. There was just something about these two that made me feel like maybe, just maybe, they really needed it. In all probability I was suckered, but that's ok. I still felt good about it.


Thanks Cordelia.
on Mar 03, 2006
What a good story, Mason. Made me smile (which isn't a small feat this week).

Glad to see/read you again!
on Mar 03, 2006

you did a good thing Mason

no one was hurt by this choice and maybe it'll have a ripple effect for the positive or change something

somewhere along the line...thanks for being you.

on Mar 04, 2006

Giving is definately better than receiving.

That says it all!