A bunch of useless crap
Published on May 24, 2008 By MasonM In Blogging

I was watching a crafts program and the woman was saying that a big hindrance for a lot of people is that they get so hung up on trying to make things perfectly that they wind up either not enjoying it or simply never finish at all. She said that perfection is highly overrated. It's a hobby and one should enjoy it, not stress over making it perfect. I have to agree with her completely.

I remember when I first started knitting. As I tend to be something of a perfectionist by nature I experienced a great deal of stress trying to learn and trying to make it perfect. A guy on MWK (thanks MMario) told me that knitting is supposed to relieve stress, not cause it.

I gave that a great deal of thought and realized that he was exactly right. I stopped stressing over trying to make it perfect, and just started making it. My knitting improved very quickly after that and I actually enjoyed the process of creating something, even if imperfect, with my own two hands.

I wonder how many of us wind up turning something that we should be enjoying into a burdonsome task because instead of simply enjoying it we get wrapped up in trying to do it perfectly? I think there is a valuable lesson to be learned in such a simple statement as "perfection is overrated".

Yes, there are some tasks which need to be as perfect as we can make them. Heart surgery comes to mind. But our hobbies and recreational pastimes don't really fall into that category do they? Perhaps in our modern hectic lifestyle we have forgotten that sometimes one can spend some time doing something that doesn't really need to be perfect. We can actually just enjoy doing it regardless of whether it is really perfect or not.

I think perhaps that's the very meaning of the word relaxation.


Comments
on May 24, 2008
You are right. I guess that I kind of knew that, just never tried to live it. But I need to pay more attention to why I am doing something instead of making it perfect.
on May 24, 2008
You are right. I guess that I kind of knew that, just never tried to live it. But I need to pay more attention to why I am doing something instead of making it perfect.


Yeah it's pretty easy to get all tied up in trying to make something perfect instead of just relaxing and enjoying it.
on May 24, 2008

Lots of depth in this subject.  I wonder WHY (there I go again) that this is a common thing in humans.  And is it all humans, or is it more prevalent in some certain subgroups.  Like do members of tribes in Africa get all spooled up over the quality of a mask they're making?  I guess that what I'm pondering on your blog here, (for further exploration), is "What is the source of perfectionism?"

on May 24, 2008
I guess that what I'm pondering on your blog here, (for further exploration), is "What is the source of perfectionism?"


I think one could write an entire thesis on that topic.

In a nutshell, I think it's a desire to be seen, even if only by oneself, as perfect as the art (or other product) reflects the artist.

Personally I think it's the little flaws, both in the art and the person, that truly makes for something unique and special.
on May 27, 2008

Some years back an ex-gf tried to teach me how to knit. She started off me on oven mitts. I would get so frustrated whenever I made a mistake because I wanted the oven mitt perfect.

My ex on the other hand would just laugh and tell me it's better with mistakes. She would get upset when she made NO mistakes.

on May 27, 2008

I'm totally guilty of this as well. Taken to its logical extreme, I find the same mindset also stops me from trying new things, as I'm generally terrified of screwing up.

Still, I find that perfectionism is actually a helpful trait for many of the things I enjoy. Programming without putting a lot of thought into your work beforehand tends to result in all sorts of pain down the road, for instance. And for me, my definition of "art" is something where you are in pursuit of perfection... for me, that goes for my drawings, my music, my Taekwondo, and my writing. In those things, perfection is precisely the point (or, at least, the eventual goal)!

However, I think your point still stands in that being frustrated at imperfection is a bad thing. I figure that you should be happy with simply being better than you were before... we'll never be perfect, but we can always get closer to that ideal.


Now, if you aren't getting better, THEN you're allowed to be frustrated.

on May 27, 2008
Some years back an ex-gf tried to teach me how to knit. She started off me on oven mitts. I would get so frustrated whenever I made a mistake because I wanted the oven mitt perfect.
My ex on the other hand would just laugh and tell me it's better with mistakes. She would get upset when she made NO mistakes.


Yeah, it's the little mistakes that make it unique.
on May 27, 2008
I'm totally guilty of this as well. Taken to its logical extreme, I find the same mindset also stops me from trying new things, as I'm generally terrified of screwing up.
Still, I find that perfectionism is actually a helpful trait for many of the things I enjoy. Programming without putting a lot of thought into your work beforehand tends to result in all sorts of pain down the road, for instance. And for me, my definition of "art" is something where you are in pursuit of perfection... for me, that goes for my drawings, my music, my Taekwondo, and my writing. In those things, perfection is precisely the point (or, at least, the eventual goal)!
However, I think your point still stands in that being frustrated at imperfection is a bad thing. I figure that you should be happy with simply being better than you were before... we'll never be perfect, but we can always get closer to that ideal.
Now, if you aren't getting better, THEN you're allowed to be frustrated.


Yes, I think one should always strive to improve, but not to the point that it causes you to stop enjoying the activity itself. I started improving much more quickly when I stopped trying to be perfect and simply enjoyed the knitting.

I do disagree with the idea that art is the pursuit of perfection. I think it's more an attempt to reflect perfection. Often the art itself is less than perfect even if it attempts to reflect something beautiful and perfect.
on May 28, 2008

Then I suspect that my definition of art (be it martial, visual, or audio) is a personal one... I always approach it with an eye towards constant improvement.

And I'll disagree on another point: I don't think that we should accept imperfection. I don't think that paralysis or frustration as you describe is helpful either, but flaws should be taken note of with the intent of doing better next time. It's the only way to improve!

on May 28, 2008

MamaCharlie is a quilter.  She makes some patchwork quilts that have literally hundreds of triangles or squares in them.  Back in her youth, if corners didn't meet PERFECTLY, they either got redone or pitched in the "forget about it" bin.  Now days she is much mellower.  When the corners are a hair off she just smiles and says, "It's folk art!" 

I agree that somethings have to be done right, but if your hobby is stressing you out, you need a new hobby!

on Jun 15, 2008

hi there everyone,im new to this blog site and im really impressed so far,oops sorry,my name is Tracey im from England.

I would like to say that its wonderful to meet you all and that its so nice to see fellow knitters also of being the male species;)

I didnt have much time to read everything but i see that Mason is so busy always on the road.

I hope so much to become a part of the family here as everything ive read so far sounds so close to eachothers hearts.

Take care of eachother i hope to see you all again soon

best wishes Tracey x

on Jun 15, 2008
I hope so much to become a part of the family here as everything ive read so far sounds so close to eachothers hearts.


Welcome to the fray, morningstar08. I'm sure you'll fit in nicely around these parts.

Hope to see you posting again soon.
on Jun 18, 2008
I agree that somethings have to be done right, but if your hobby is stressing you out, you need a new hobby!


That pretty well sums up the whole point nicely.
on Jun 18, 2008
hi there everyone,im new to this blog site and im really impressed so far,oops sorry,my name is Tracey im from England.
I would like to say that its wonderful to meet you all and that its so nice to see fellow knitters also of being the male species;)
I didnt have much time to read everything but i see that Mason is so busy always on the road.
I hope so much to become a part of the family here as everything ive read so far sounds so close to eachothers hearts.
Take care of eachother i hope to see you all again soon
best wishes Tracey x


Welcome.
on Jun 20, 2008
There is a lot of truth in this article.

I know I've over-strained myself to the point where I cannot create anything at all because I get so worried about doing it right or having it accepted by peers. I'm just afraid I'll fall into carelessness or laziness, and just have too much fun and not improving.